I walked into the meeting thinking I will do the pledge/ inspiration as I got Susan’s confirmation email this morning.
Then, I saw the agenda saying I am the evaluator from Tan. The meeting started. I didn’t have the chance to ask Susan, “I thought….”
I was not happy. I was the hot seat and volunteered at a late notice. I was doing a favor! And now, at the last minute, I was informed to be another position!
I was not happy. When I listened to Tan’s speech, it made me angrier: I had to ask him myself for the manual to write my evaluation which he didn’t bring. He looked indifferent at his speech and plainly read through the draft.
I had so many negative thoughts at mind:
Hey, I was confirmed to do the inspiration!
I offered to volunteer and was screwed!
What the speech is that!
He should have done more preparation!
At the meantime, my positive angle arrived:
Isn’t the big picture that the meeting runs smoothly?
Who are you arguing with?
If you were Susan, what would you feel if you were confronted?
Hon said he just got over with Mid-term, don’t you think that is good enough he shows up and even manage to go on the stage?
He could have skipped this meeting.
Glad to the time thinking.
At the time I gave the evaluation, I decided to put my negativity aside:
I praised Hon’s focus on the objectives
I admired him being able to put everything together during the mid-term.
After the meeting, Hon appreciated my constructive feedback.
As I told him again how amazing he is just to come to the meeting after a non-sleep night, he said he felt responsible after missing so many meetings.
Glad again that I didn’t let my negativity out or it may put off his willingness to participate in the meeting.
Susan came to me to thank me. She told me she could have had me do two duties (since my last email saying I can do the evaluation if no one is going to,) but Susan C. said she can do the inspiration. Plus, because Susan C. is also Tan’s mentor; if she be the evaluator, Tan couldn’t get some other perspectives.
When I went back to the office, I saw Susan’s email. She sent right before the meeting saying the change of arrangement, I didn’t receive it until after.
I am so glad that I did put aside my resentment and have the positive side comes out. Everything turns out great~ =D
